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1 - The Nature of Hurt Feelings

What Is Intimacy?

from Introduction

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  05 June 2012

Luciano L'Abate
Luciano L'Abate
Affiliation:
Georgia State University
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Summary

It is increasingly apparent that a complete understanding of any emotional process is going to require attention paid to multiple levels of analysis, from the cultural to the behavioral, psychological, experimental, physiological, and molecular.

Coan & Allen (2007, p. 8)

This chapter presents and supports a behavioral definition of intimacy in contrast to definitions of intimacy obtained through self-report, paper-and-pencil questionnaires. In no way is this contrast meant to diminish the value of questionnaires. It merely means that there are many ways to define intimacy that lead to different findings, implications, and conclusions. When intimacy is defined as the sharing of joys, hurts, and fears of being hurt, this definition implies also that hurt feelings exist at the foundation of our existence (Cusinato & L’Abate, 2012; L’Abate, 1977, 1986, 1994, 1997, 1999a, 2003, 2005, 2009b; L’Abate, Cusinato, Maino, Colesso, & Scilletta, 2010; L’Abate & Sloan, 1984).

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Hurt Feelings
Theory, Research, and Applications in Intimate Relationships
 , pp. 3 - 34
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2011

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