This part of the book analyzes the interpersonal emotional schemas that appear in the relational narratives of the second generation. The emotions that are most discussed in the clinical literature on survivors of major traumas and their children are anger, guilt, shame, anxiety, helplessness, and loneliness. In addition to considering these negative emotions (Chapters 6–9) and their characteristics, we present narratives that refer to positive emotions (Chapter 10), such as feelings of joy and pride. Interviewees were not asked to recall an episode with a specific emotion; instead we identified the emotions that came up in the episodes as told by our interviewees. An exception to this nonspecific approach to studying emotions by means of asking for relational narratives (without specifying the emotion beforehand) was our additional request from narrators to tell relational episodes (REs) about loneliness (in Chapter 9).

The following chapters are organized according to the emotions that were identified in the relational narratives. We propose that the nature and quality of trauma-specific interpersonal communication between the survivor parents and their children (see Chapter 5) is key for understanding the emotional experiences that are depicted in these narratives.

The interplay between nonverbal presence of trauma and emotions is conveyed most powerfully in the passage from David Grossman's book “See Under Love” in the part that is called Glossary: The Language of “Over There”: