Book contents
- The New Psychology of Love
- The New Psychology of Love
- Copyright page
- Dedication
- Contents
- Figure and Tables
- Contributors
- Preface
- Chapter 1 Love as Expansion of the Self
- Chapter 2 Entraining, Becoming, and Loving
- Chapter 3 The Evolution of Love in Humans
- Chapter 4 Neuroimaging of Love in the Twenty-first Century
- Chapter 5 Love Conceptualized as Mutual Communal Responsiveness
- Chapter 6 Love Is Political: How Power and Bias Influence Our Intimate Lives
- Chapter 7 Love, Desire, and Sexual Fluidity
- Chapter 8 Everyday Conceptions of Love
- Chapter 9 Passionate Love
- Chapter 10 Slow Love: Courtship in the Digital Age
- Chapter 11 Styles of Romantic Love
- Chapter 12 An Anthropologist Goes Looking for Love in All the Old Places: A Personal Account
- Chapter 13 A Behavioral Systems Approach to Romantic Love Relationships: Attachment, Caregiving, and Sex
- Chapter 14 When Love Goes Awry (Part 1): Applications of the Duplex Theory of Love and Its Development to Relationships Gone Bad
- Chapter 15 When Love Goes Awry (Part 2): Application of an Augmented Duplex Theory of Love to Personal and Situational Factors in Jealousy and Envy
- Index
- References
Chapter 7 - Love, Desire, and Sexual Fluidity
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 03 December 2018
Book contents
- The New Psychology of Love
- The New Psychology of Love
- Copyright page
- Dedication
- Contents
- Figure and Tables
- Contributors
- Preface
- Chapter 1 Love as Expansion of the Self
- Chapter 2 Entraining, Becoming, and Loving
- Chapter 3 The Evolution of Love in Humans
- Chapter 4 Neuroimaging of Love in the Twenty-first Century
- Chapter 5 Love Conceptualized as Mutual Communal Responsiveness
- Chapter 6 Love Is Political: How Power and Bias Influence Our Intimate Lives
- Chapter 7 Love, Desire, and Sexual Fluidity
- Chapter 8 Everyday Conceptions of Love
- Chapter 9 Passionate Love
- Chapter 10 Slow Love: Courtship in the Digital Age
- Chapter 11 Styles of Romantic Love
- Chapter 12 An Anthropologist Goes Looking for Love in All the Old Places: A Personal Account
- Chapter 13 A Behavioral Systems Approach to Romantic Love Relationships: Attachment, Caregiving, and Sex
- Chapter 14 When Love Goes Awry (Part 1): Applications of the Duplex Theory of Love and Its Development to Relationships Gone Bad
- Chapter 15 When Love Goes Awry (Part 2): Application of an Augmented Duplex Theory of Love to Personal and Situational Factors in Jealousy and Envy
- Index
- References
Summary
I considered myself a sexuality researcher long before I considered myself a relationship researcher, and so when I first started studying the phenomenon of romantic love, it was in the context of studying sexual desire. My particular focus was on same-sex desire, a phenomenon that remains highly stigmatized in our culture and around the globe. My first research project as a new graduate student at Cornell University in the early 1990s involved interviewing young sexual-minority women.
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