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Shared or conflicting working models? Relationships in postdivorce families seen through the eyes of mothers and their preschool children

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  01 September 2004

INGE BRETHERTON  and
TIMOTHY F. PAGE
INGE BRETHERTON
Affiliation:
University of Wisconsin–Madison
TIMOTHY F. PAGE
Affiliation:
Louisiana State University
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Abstract

Marvin and Stewart and Byng–Hall proposed that effective family collaboration requires family members to construct “shared family working models,” and that the renegotiation of these working models during family transitions is facilitated by family members' “interactional awareness” (ability to be perceptive observers of family relationships). We apply these constructs to data collected from 71 mothers and their 4.5- to 5.0-year-old preschool children, 2 years after parental divorce. Maternal representations of the father as coparent and ex-spouse, and of father– and mother–child relationships were assessed via two interviews. A family story completion task captured child representations of mother–child and father–child, coparental and ex-spousal interactions. Maternal accounts of mother–child conversations illustrated the negotiation of shared working models. Primarily qualitative analyses contrasting maternal and child perspectives are presented in the first section. Then we use regression analyses to predict children's story themes from maternal representations of flexible, sensitive, and effective discipline-related interactions; maternal depressive symptoms; and perception of the child's father. Finally, we identify gender differences in children's enactments of divorce-related and child-empathy themes. We conclude by considering how our findings could be used to assist postdivorce families in constructing shared rather than conflicting working models of family relations.This research was funded by Grant R01 HD267766 awarded to the first author by the NICHD. Additional support was received from the University of Wisconsin Graduate School Research Committee, the Waisman Center, and the Vilas Trust. We express our deep appreciation to the mothers and children who participated in this study. We also thank Barbara Golby, Angel Gullon–Rivera, Patti Herman, Chris Halvorsen, Vicky Lenzlinger, Kristine Munholland, Reghan Walsh, and Laura Winn for assisting with data collection and analysis and acknowledge helpful advice from John Byng–Hall, Robert Emery, Paul Amato, and Daniel Veroff.

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Development and Psychopathology , Volume 16 , Issue 3 , September 2004 , pp. 551 - 575
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© 2004 Cambridge University Press

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