This chapter is born out of an attempt to understand the experiences of oneself and very many similar women as part of a process – the process of ‘selfing’ the city to which we have come as outsiders. These experiences, this apparently ‘personal’ process of adjustment and negotiation is also seen as contributing to a larger process – it is difficult to call it a process of social transformation or even change, though all the signs of such a description seem implicit in understanding the material out of which the chapter is made. Hence at this stage, I shall merely provide an account of the material and attempt to connect these accounts with each other in order to construct a context. Whether this context is the result of a change or is in itself a sign of change can then be speculated upon. The project is an attempt to give meaning to memories of sharing – hostel rooms, confidences, double dates, boyfriend problems, local guardian woes and many such realities that had not existed in the sheltered lives we had left behind in order to chase a dream – the dream of the city. In later years, this was the experience of many students and friends that I could identify with – only now the scene has shifted to PG digs, shared flats, rented accommodation, and the problems could all be classified under the large, loose category of ‘staying or sticking on’.