Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- New Introduction
- Preface to the Original Edition
- 1 Childbirth and the ‘Position’ of Women
- 2 In the Beginning
- 3 Remember, Pregnancy is a State of Health
- 4 Journey into the Unknown
- 5 The Agony and the Ecstasy
- 6 Mother and Baby
- 7 Learning the Language of the Child
- 8 Menus
- 9 Domestic Politics
- 10 Into a Routine
- 11 Lessons Learnt
- 12 Mothers and Medical People
- Endnote – Being Researched
- Notes and References
- Appendix List of Characters
8 - Menus
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 14 April 2022
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- New Introduction
- Preface to the Original Edition
- 1 Childbirth and the ‘Position’ of Women
- 2 In the Beginning
- 3 Remember, Pregnancy is a State of Health
- 4 Journey into the Unknown
- 5 The Agony and the Ecstasy
- 6 Mother and Baby
- 7 Learning the Language of the Child
- 8 Menus
- 9 Domestic Politics
- 10 Into a Routine
- 11 Lessons Learnt
- 12 Mothers and Medical People
- Endnote – Being Researched
- Notes and References
- Appendix List of Characters
Summary
I used to think breastfeeding was like falling off a log, and then I found out otherwise.
… the first principle of infant feeding is, after all, to feed the infant.
A major theme of the early weeks is feeding. Indeed, for months the mother's concern for the baby tends to be focused on what, how muck and how often it eats. A baby that is feeding and growing ‘well’ is a prize for the mother's efforts, a tangible token of her love and work. Conversely, a baby who gains weight more slowly than it ‘should’, and who perhaps cries a lot and seems unsatisfied, is a thorn in the mother's flesh, a sign of maternal failure. Of course such an attitude is fanned by the professional advisers of baby feeding - paediatricians, health visitors and so forth - who take it as axiomatic that the baby's growth and happiness must depend on a mother's care.
A new mother listens to these advisers, but she also listens to those who have reared babies without the benefits of professional training: mothers, mothers-in-law, sisters, friends. And she listens to her baby, who may have ideas of its own. What goes into the mouths of babies is a mix of all these ingredients, a compromise between the different messages. The baby (its size, sleeping habits, contentment, bowel movements) becomes the only valid arbiter of success.
Breast is Best?
Before a first baby is born, breast versus bottle is a theoretical question only. Classes may be attended, books read, friends and relations talked to, but any decision made is apt to be challenged by the reality of a screaming infant with gums like an iron clamp, a bottomless stomach and a rage of quite unimaginable proportions. Similarly, notions about when ‘solid’ food should become part of the infant's diet may be thrown out with the baby's bathwater once a real baby's real appetite becomes a factor to be reckoned with; the way to a baby's heart is, after all, through its stomach. One result of this conflict is that nearly a third of mothers do not feed their babies on the kind of milk (human, cows’) they intended, and more than half introduce solids earlier than they planned to.
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- From Here to Maternity (Reissue)Becoming a Mother, pp. 155 - 187Publisher: Bristol University PressPrint publication year: 2018