Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Foreword
- Nonviolent Resistance
- 1 Nonviolent Resistance: A New Approach to Violent and Self-Destructive Children
- 2 Escalation Processes
- 3 The Parents' Instruction Manual
- 4 Nonviolent Resistance in Action
- 5 Violence toward Siblings
- 6 Children Who Take Control of the House
- 7 Parents And Teachers: The Vital Alliance
- 8 Nonviolent Resistance in the Community
- Afterword: Nonviolent Resistance as a Moral and Practical Doctrine for the individual, the Family, and the Community
- References
- Index
7 - Parents And Teachers: The Vital Alliance
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 25 October 2009
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Foreword
- Nonviolent Resistance
- 1 Nonviolent Resistance: A New Approach to Violent and Self-Destructive Children
- 2 Escalation Processes
- 3 The Parents' Instruction Manual
- 4 Nonviolent Resistance in Action
- 5 Violence toward Siblings
- 6 Children Who Take Control of the House
- 7 Parents And Teachers: The Vital Alliance
- 8 Nonviolent Resistance in the Community
- Afterword: Nonviolent Resistance as a Moral and Practical Doctrine for the individual, the Family, and the Community
- References
- Index
Summary
There are close parallels between the situation of parents and teachers regarding children with behavior problems: (1) the child's behavior problems at home are often reconstructed at school; (2) parents and teachers base their authority on the same foundations; and (3) the expectations from parents and teachers (and the criticisms against them) are similar. In addition, the tasks of both parties are so interdependent that it would be hard for either one to succeed without the other's support. Nonetheless, relations between parents and teachers are often extremely strained (Uziel 2001).
One might venture that of all the parties that affect the parental effort, the child's teachers and school are the most important. Suffice it to mention there is no other place in which the child spends as many hours and years as the school. Concurrently, the parents are the school's chief source of support in dealing with the child's behavior problems. Any teacher knows that a negative parental attitude toward the school can badly aggravate a child's behavior problems. Therefore, an attempt by either party to curb the child's aggressive behavior without the other's support – or worse, with its resistance – is like trying to build a dam with a sieve.
FACTORS THAT WEAKEN THE AUTHORITY OF PARENTS AND TEACHERS
Several processes in modern society undermine the authority of parents and teachers.
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- Non-Violent ResistanceA New Approach to Violent and Self-destructive Children, pp. 147 - 170Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2003