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When I first found out I had MND, Steph had just given birth to Ralphie, so we went from that amazing high to being told that I’d got something that could potentially kill me in two years.

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  25 April 2023

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We were on a family holiday when I noticed that my hands were starting to curl and lose feeling. When we got back we went to the doctor, who took me to a hand specialist. I was seen by a neurologist at Doncaster Royal Infirmary. My reflexes were off the scale, which is a common thing in Motor Neurone Disease (MND). The old analogy with the doctor banging the hammer on your knee? My reflexes were off the chart.

I worked in the gas and electric metering industry, on the smart metering side. I’d good prospects: I went from office manager to business development manager, had a good salary and a company car on its way. But everything was taking double the effort. Stephanie had to help me get dressed in the morning.

I was told by the nurse there were benefits. We started the process in November 2017. You think, oh, super. Then they say, ‘We’re going to send you an application form’. Yep, fair enough. But to be hit with a nearly 40-page document, it’s eye-opening. The document is exactly the same for everyone. Twelve questions classed as ‘daily living’, from getting dressed, getting washed and bathed, to toilet needs, cooking. Then there’s a mobility aspect, asking how far you can walk, do you still use a car to get about, can you still drive? There’s a guideline booklet which says, ‘Don’t just say “I cannot button up my shirt”, go into detail as to why you can’t button up your shirt.’ We went into as much detail as possible. We thought it’d be a case of, yes, he’s got MND, he needs to be awarded.

We received a letter from the Department for Work and Pensions (DWP) saying we needed to go to an assessment in Doncaster, which, for people with MND, shouldn’t happen.

The DWP guidelines state that anybody with a terminal illness should be granted benefits straight away. The assessor said he’d worked in nursing for 10 years, but it was obvious from the outset that he didn’t know what MND was, what it did, and what it affected. We gave him an outline.

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Invisible Britain
Portraits of Hope and Resilience
, pp. 24
Publisher: Bristol University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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